i’m 27 today. but you were there, so you know. i have a voicemail from you and kendall telling me happy birthday from years ago. i listened to it a lot today. the air has felt and smelled different since you’ve officially departed, christmas and my birthday have been no different. you used to complain that it was like the umbilical cord was never cut because i was up your butt all of the time, and now it feels like it really has been cut. my soul was always driven to you, even when things weren’t well between us. here’s to 27 years of us.

Now that I have given myself time to breathe, I want to contribute for those whom have given me some thoughts and feelings about my mother. My best friend of 11 years, Travis, his brother and his family all have been praying for me and my family, as my mom was very close with their father, they would help each other in the snap of a finger. Travis has really helped me get through these times with his uplifting spirit, funny personality, and just caring and understanding how I feel. My other great friend, John was devastated to hear about my mother, he thought she was really funny and was an amazing mother, John said he couldn’t imagine how I feel and that he is praying for my future. He has helped me through a lot, aswell as take me under his wing as a brother almost. Some of my school friends, consisting of Dru, Anthony, and Julian all came to me and asked if I’m doing alright, as they aswell couldn’t imagine what I’m going through. Multiple teachers have expressed how they feel, the school counselor was close with my mom, and she was devastated to hear about the loss, knowing about me and my little sister. My english teacher, Mrs. Greene has shown heavy support towards me, saying that her room is a safe space for me if I ever need somewhere. And my music teacher, Mrs. Jarnecke feels terrible for me, she had a history with my family, as she taught my big sister, Leigh-Anne in chorus during her years in middle school, although with a different surname. A couple more online friends expressed how they feel, and that they are praying for me at this time. Expecially this person who goes by “Winner” whom said that he will defend me if anyone brings up my mother, or disturbs me during these rouger times. Another friend of mine, whom will go unnamed due to his own asking reached out to me and said that I can vent to him, which I did a lot with much understanding. Somebody whom is like an older brother to me, whom goes by “Actana” felt terrible for me, knowing that I am still in my adolescent years told me to please reach out whenever I need. But lastly, I want to thank my little sister, Kendall. Sure, we may not get along often, but the fact we’ve been able to persevere through these tough tough times is amazing. I was 102 percent a Mothers-Boy. And my lil-sister was like a carbon copy of my mother. Kendall has had a very, very tough time to this point as she is heartbroken, as am I by my mother leaving us like this. I still don’t have too much of a relationship with my father, but its at a “somewhat stable” point. Do I want to be with him, no. But during these times I’m just lucky to have somewhere to live. Since I wrote this during homeroom at school today, I don’t have time to name all the people I want, and the rest of the names consist of: Kelly, Cheryl, Leigh-Anne, Timmy + Virginia R., Don, Makayla, Grandma McKimmie, BonBon, Fero, Tycord, Vi/Violet, and many others. – JVS, “Bug”, thatone_guy

This isn’t easy for me to write. I’ve typed & deleted a hundred times. I’m gonna make it brief, compared to the book it could’ve been. So many memories, thoughts & feelings run through my head. A song, a picture, our kids… Remember when….I was young & so were you.…& time stood still.…& love was all we knew….BUT this is NOT how it was supposed to be! I’ve never loved anyone in my life like I loved you…I’ve never hated anyone in my life like I hated you…so many times I looked you in the eyes telling you I wanted the person I fell in love with back…she’s been gone for sooo long! I hope you found peace! I hope you’re proud of these 3 beautiful kids you gave me! I hope to see that person I’ve missed for soooo long again one day! Love ya 🌧️🐻

I met Vicky

No words can ease your heartache, sadness or anger. Just know there are many who pray for your peace and comfort. Addiction & mental health, is too often ‘swept under the rug’, met with discrimination and stigma, but they are very real things that need more attention and resources. My heart breaks for yall. My belief is, Vickie is whole again, in mind and body. Free of demons and illnesses. I pray you find peace and comfort in each other, while strengthening your relationships. You have my number if you ever want to talk, scream, laugh, cry or whatever- hit me up. I believe Vickie is in a place with no more suffering, no more demons or illnesses.🙏🏽. Take what you loved most about her and your favorite memories and hold them in your heart. ❤️ Llove yall

I never knew you but I knew your kind, hilarious, chill child for a softball season. From this picture, I see where she got her thick hair, genuine smile, warmth in the eyes. To live is to know pain and for some we live suffering far too long and far too hard to see the love trying to peek between the darkened curtains. I am so sorry for the shortened end to a life you never got to love, and for those dear ones left behind. I pray there be peace upon you and your dust returns to the stars so you may glimmer once more. Much love to you and your legacy, those beloved children, dear stranger.

My beautiful sweet cuz. Although we spoke often via internet, I wish I could\\’ve been there more than what I was. I wish I could\\’ve been there sooner. Although we weren\\’t blood cousins I wish you could\\’ve felt how much I loved you. Blood didn\\’t matter to me. I will always remember the good times we had together. Playing house playing dolls dressing up our cats. Running around the yard and our trip to the beach. Grandma always making us drink our water before bed even sitting at the table forever together cuz we didn\\’t wanna eat a vegatable. I\\’m so sorry for the things you had to go through, you didn\\’t deserve it at all. You were so sweet and caring and loving with an amazing singing voice and a talent in art and omg could you make beautiful cakes. I pray you are finally at peace. I love you always cuz…

My beautiful sweet cuz. Although we spoke often via internet, I wish I could\’ve been there more than what I was. I wish I could\’ve been there sooner. Although we weren\’t blood cousins I wish you could\’ve felt how much I loved you. Blood didn\’t matter to me. I will always remember the good times we had together. Playing house playing dolls dressing up our cats. Running around the yard and our trip to the beach. Grandma always making us drink our water before bed even sitting at the table forever together cuz we didn\’t wanna eat a vegatable. I\’m so sorry for the things you had to go through, you didn\’t deserve it at all. You were so sweet and caring and loving with an amazing singing voice and a talent in art and omg could you make beautiful cakes. I pray you are finally at peace. I love you always cuz…

My beautiful sweet cuz. Although we spoke often via internet, I wish I could’ve been there more than what I was. I wish I could’ve been there sooner. Although we weren’t blood cousins I wish you could’ve felt how much I loved you. Blood didn’t matter to me. I will always remember the good times we had together. Playing house playing dolls dressing up our cats. Running around the yard and our trip to the beach. Grandma always making us drink our water before bed even sitting at the table forever together cuz we didn’t wanna eat a vegatable. I’m so sorry for the things you had to go through, you didn’t deserve it at all. You were so sweet and caring and loving with an amazing singing voice and a talent in art and omg could you make beautiful cakes. I pray you are finally at peace. I love you always cuz…

“I’d like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways, Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days. I’d like the tears of those who grieve, to dry before the sun; Of happy memories that I leave when life is done.” I feel deeply for your loss and I am wishing for comfort and peace for those closest to Victoria in this time of unbelievable sorrow.

My sympathy to the Rohm, and Snelling Families. Life gives us many challenges, chapters to live through. However, from what i hear about Victoria, that is exactly what she would expect from you, keep living, do not give in to the pain, live through it, i’ll be alright, i am here for you. My deepest sympathies, with prayer.

Victoria, my mother was one of the sweetest females i knew. she would do anything for me or my two sisters in a heartbeat. she struggled with a lot of things, and pushed through them for quite a while, until she didn’t. ive been heartbroken knowing i have to live the next forever without my mom. now im in a situation where im stuck with my father whom ive had zero relationship with for the past year, and life is as hard as it’s ever been to this point. my mom went through hell to support this family she had, whether she was super sick, broke, or depressed. she put her children far before herself. i hope she looks down upon me and my sisters with a smile on her face in the future, i will make you proud mom.

“I believe that tears can heal, memories can comfort, and love lives on forever.” LeighAnne, I know that grief is hard, and there is further complexity that comes with the loss of your mother. But I hope that you can find comfort in the good memories and knowing that you are strong. Please lean into your circle of loved ones and let them support you during this challenging time. I am here if you ever would like to talk or just a shoulder to cry on. I’m wishing that you and your siblings can find peace, as your mother has now. And that she will let you know she is protecting you guys. 🤍

May She find peace, sending thoughts and prayers to her family 🙏🙏🙏

Resting in peace, Victoria. Leigh-Anne,Joseph,Kendall and Jackson, prayers for peace, comfort, and grace for you all. Your journeys contiune and in my experience, it is one day at a time, one moment at a time. Love always, Avnel

Resting in peace, Victoria. Leigh-Anne,Joseph,Kendall and Jackson, prayers for peace, comfort, and grace for you all. Your journeys contiune and in my experience, it is one day at a time, one moment at a time.

“Death is nothing at all, I have only slipped away into the next room. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the way which you always used to. Laugh as we always laughed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without effort. Life means all that it ever was: There is absolutely unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of your mind, because I am out of your sight? I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near just around the corner. All is well. Nothing is past; nothing is lost. One Grief moment and all will be as it was before – only better, infinitely happier and forever” Acceptance and forgiveness is your momentous challenge now Leigh Anne. I remember in high school you were already helping mother your siblings. It’s not fair that you had and have all that extra weight on your life, but I’m so proud of you for managing it and doing your best. Momma is proud of you too. She will send you signs. Just ask her to. She will heal in the other place and send you love in a different way than she was able to in this life. I’m so sorry for your pain, the fresh raw pain of today, as well as the lifelong ache you will manage. You CAN do this. You can still be whole. She wants you to be alright and thrive again. Also, it’s ok to be angry. Love you so much. Your friend, Tricia

mama, i have a lot to say. i have a lot to scream. i know you didn’t mean to, but how could you do this to us? you used to be so perfect. you were everything i wanted to be when i was little. i have never loved anyone the way i loved you. i wish things happened differently for you. i wish you would’ve taken a chance on yourself. you created such a beautiful family. three kids who now have to grieve you longer than they have known you. i hope you know that i only left so i had a chance at survival — the same chance i wish you would’ve taken before it was too late. i’d like to think i became the woman you were meant to be, had you taken the chance. for years, i’ve talked about you and all of the good memories you created for me with friends. i’ve been grieving you for 8 years, but the finality is painful. addiction does not discriminate. addiction transcends age, religion, sex, creed, and class. did you know it only takes the body 4 days to become addicted to a substance? my mama wasn’t out with the goal to become a drug addict, nobody ever is. mama was a cake decorator, and that put a toll on her hands, they became painful. then she spiraled. it’s so easy to. please, learn how to use narcan, carry it on you everyday, and be willing to use it. you could be saving 3 kids from a lifetime of pain and give that person hope that people want them alive.

Prayers for Vicky’s family and loved ones during this time. We are saddened, but understand the battle is over. We pray that she is at peace with Jesus ❤️

Prayers for her family Vicky was always a great girl in high school. My she rest in peace